If you are at risk, it's vital you remember to delete any information from the computer that could compromise your safety. In this case, this means deleting your browsing history so no one can see you've been on our site. Follow the steps provided by your browser manufacturer to clear your history.


Right click your screen and select Internet options


A new window will open. Select delete below browsing history.


Finally, check all of the boxes and press delete

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Myths and Realities


Myth: domestic violence is a private matter to be dealt with by the family.

Reality: it is a criminal offence.


Myth: lesbians, men and gay men don’t suffer from domestic abuse.

Reality: domestic abuse is about control within a relationship, regardless of sexual orientation. It can affect anyone.


Myth: abusers aren’t loving partners.

Reality: when they’re not being violent, abusers are often charismatic, generous, playful, sensitive and exciting. It is the swings in behaviour that confuse and frighten the person being abused into staying in the relationship/home.


Myth: domestic abuse will end if a couple gets married.

Reality: this is based on the idea that an abuser will feel more secure and confident in their relationship once they are married but often the opposite is true and the abuser becomes more suspicious and possessive and the level of violence increases.


Myth: only children who directly experience domestic violence are harmed by it.

Reality: children who witness or fear abuse display the same responses as children who experience it directly.


Myth: those experiencing domestic abuse can always leave.

Reality: it can be extremely difficult to leave a controlling partner who has often undermined the self-belief and self-esteem of their partner, leaving them feeling isolated and struggling to make decisions. There are financial, social and emotional factors to consider and the point of separation can put victims and their children at increased risk. Besides, it’s not just leaving that’s difficult it’s the fear of what will happen next which is why it’s so important to realise you aren’t on your own.

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Crossroads Derbyshire offers confidential advice and support to adults, children and young people in Glossop, the High Peak and across Derbyshire.
If you need our help, or know someone who does, call us on 0800 0198 668.